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Eva (Eve) Abernethy (nee Fitz-henry)

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A tribute byLisa James

This is in memory of our lovely Mum, Eve.
In summer 2015 she felt unwell with pains and the usual signs of pancreatic cancer, albeit we didn't know what it was then. She was actually diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in September 2015. It was devastating but Mum was determined to beat this just like she had breast cancer 23 years before.
She was borderline eligible for the whipple but decided to give it a go. After an initial good recovery the tumor started to grow again. She had chemo but this didn't help. I've never seen anyone suffer the way she did but all throughout my Mum was dignified and brave. She just wanted to live to be with her children and also her grandchildren who she adored. She had so much to give and was such a kind, generous and caring person.
Mum got worse and sadly passed away on 02.06.16, a few weeks before she was due to retire - something she had been looking forward to do after working for an extra 2 years, aged just (a young!) 67.
Our lives will never be the same and we all miss her so much each day. She was the nucleus of our family and none of us can still quite believe our Mums not here and the thought of the rest of my life without her is hard to take in.
Mum made such an impression on all the people that she came in contact with and the amount of people who came to her funeral was testament to that.
She was my best friend and I couldn't have asked for a better Mum to guide my brothers and me through life. She left us all with the belief that we should carry on and smile, live life and to enjoy and make the best of what we have. I will try to do just that... although it is so hard as Mum is the last thing I think of at night and the first thing in the morning.
I know Mum's up there watching over us all. Love you forever Mum XXX
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A tribute byLisa James

My Mum. XXX
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A tribute byLisa James

It is one year ago today at 11.45hrs tonight that we lost our lovely Mum, Eve. My previous post some months ago said that Mum is the last thing I think of at night and the first thing in the morning. ... That hasn't changed.
I still can't believe that Mums gone. I cope by telling myself that I can't see her because she's just at work... or shopping... I think about her so many times during the day and pray that she is still with us, watching us all, looking after us, watching my 2 daughters grow and I am so sure I have felt her near me a few times.
I also hope that the government give more to Pancreatic Cancer research and realise that testing for the disease in it's early stages is actually do-able! As we all know, it is one of the worst cancers to get but it appears to be forgotten.
However, my Mum and thousands like her are not here and it's rubbish. And wrong. And cruel, that our loved ones suffer the way they do - they way my Mum did.
But my Mum was the bravest person I have ever met and I have a lot to live up to, but I will try my best to make the most of life just the way she did - my lovely, funny, kind, generous, beautiful, brave Mum.
So here's to you Mum, I love you, always, XXX
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