How can I talk to my family and friends?
It can be difficult talking to those close to you about dying. But being open and honest about your feelings and wishes can be comforting to you and your family. For example, you may feel less worried about the future if your family know how and where you would like to be cared for.
Talk to those close to you about how you would like them to support you. If there’s anything you would rather they didn’t do, let them know this as well.
If you find that you are having to tell lots of people about what’s happening, you could ask one person to update the rest of your family and friends for you.
Talking to children
For most children and teenagers, it’s best to be honest and explain what’s going on. You may feel you want to protect them, but even very young children often sense when something is wrong.
Use language they will understand. Check they have understood by asking them to tell you what is happening in their own words. Be prepared to answer their questions and be honest if you don’t know the answer. You may worry about getting upset in front of children, but this can help them understand that it’s okay for them to be upset too. Don’t worry if they listen to what you tell them but don’t seem to react. This is normal and doesn’t mean they haven’t understood.
Getting support for children
It can help to speak to their school, as school staff can provide support. They may also find it helpful to be aware of what’s going on at home, for example in planning schoolwork, or if the child’s behaviour changes. Students can talk to their college or university, who can provide support and help them with their workload.
Winston’s Wish provide information and support to help you talk to children about serious illness.
