Supporting someone with pancreatic cancer fatigue

It can be upsetting when someone you love has fatigue, with no energy to do much. But there are lots of ways you can support them. And you may need support, too.

Your family member might find it hard to accept help because they may be worried about losing their independence. Let them know you want to be useful. Offer a few different ways you could help, so they can choose what feels right. This can help them feel involved and in control.

What can I do to support someone with fatigue?

  • Understand how their fatigue is affecting them. Everyone experiences fatigue differently. It can go on for some time after treatment, and it can vary from day to day.
  • You may be able to help them cope emotionally.
  • You can help arrange a specific time each day when they will rest, so that everyone else knows not to disturb them.
  • You can help with household tasks. Ask other family and friends to help, too.
  • You could take on responsibility for organising daily life. For example, paying bills and organising medical appointments.
  • You may take on some caring responsibilities. This might include helping with medicines, cooking, or helping them wash and dress.
  • You may also need to organise professional care.
  • If it isn’t safe for them to drive, you could do the driving. If you are doing a lot of caring, be aware that you might also be very tired. So it may not be safe for you to drive either. Ask other family and friends to help.
  • If they have children, you could help care for them.
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“My family found it tough to see me so fatigued as I used to be very active. Reassure them that their loved ones will get more tired during chemo and not to be too alarmed by this.”

How do I get support for myself?

Supporting someone with cancer can be exhausting and upsetting. So it’s important that you get support for yourself as well. You could speak to your family member’s medical team. They may be able to offer emotional support, as well as answer any questions you have. Your GP will also be able to support you, and we support families as well as the person with pancreatic cancer.

Circles - your community space

If you have pancreatic cancer, or are currently supporting someone with a diagnosis, these groups are for you.

Connect with others via WhatsApp and Facebook groups; share the highs, the lows and everything in between with people who understand, who ‘just get it’.

Find out more about Circles
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"Not asking for help will not help you or your loved one. If you don't want to talk to friends or family, talk to the Pancreatic Cancer UK Support Line. They are amazing at just listening."

Nadia

We're here for you

We support families as well as the person with pancreatic cancer. If you need support, or have any questions about pancreatic cancer, fatigue, or how to care for your family member, speak to our specialist nurses on our free Support Line.

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Order our booklet about caring for someone with pancreatic cancer

We have more information about looking after someone with pancreatic cancer in our booklet: Caring for someone with pancreatic cancer: Information for families and friends.

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References


We have listed some of the references to the sources used to write this information. If you would like the full list of references, email us at publications@pancreaticcancer.org.uk

Updated October 2025

To be reviewed October 2028